Let Your Children Feel Their Feelings

Children’s negative emotions are not always accepted by adults. It’s unpleasant for us when the child whines, cries, or simply is not happy. And we consciously or unconsciously try to switch negative emotions to positive ones.

Children grow up and start recognizing when they are upset, angry, or sad. They think that parents do not need them when parents scold them or send them to another room when children misbehave. However, in situations when children are happy, parents love them.

When children get older, they refuse to accept negative emotions that they are experiencing and start blaming themselves for feeling sadness, anger, or aggression.

There are many benefits of these negative emotions and it is useful to teach children how to handle them. For example, anger helps us to protect ourselves, if necessary. Sadness helps us to understand what happened and analyze the situation.

When children are very upset, when they lose something, break their toys or forget to do something, give them an opportunity to feel their emotions, whether it is sadness, anger, or frustration. Do not “switch” them to positive emotions. In these moments it is important to be near. After a few minutes, the child will return to normal. When emotions are released, the whole situation resolves.

Let your children be sad. Let them cry. Let them experience their emotions. Let their body release the tension and not get it stuck inside. Trapped emotions may lead to an illness or a sudden explosive outburst in the future.